As we usher in another year, we often find ourselves reflecting on the journey behind us and contemplating the path that lies ahead. In this contemplation, a crucial dilemma surfaces. We often face the choice between solitary excellence, spiritual grounding, and honouring social connections. Organisational psychologist Adam Grant notes humans can thrive alone 70% of the time, yet a yearning for deep connections persists. As we approach a new year, let’s commit to personal growth but also value a support network for the vital 30% when solitude may breed loneliness.
Here are the two tasks for the coming year:
Pursuit of excellence
The solitary pursuit of excellence stands as a cornerstone for personal growth and self-discovery. In the solitude of our thoughts, away from the cacophony of external influences, we find the canvas on which we can paint our aspirations and refine our skills. It is in these quiet moments that we cleanse the impurities of our minds, shedding the baggage of conditioned thoughts and societal expectations.
As we commit ourselves to excellence, we engage in a profound act of self-love and self-care. The pursuit of excellence is not merely about achieving external accolades; it is a journey of understanding, honing our craft, and pushing the boundaries of our potential. In this sacred space of solitude, we emerge not only as achievers but as individuals who have confronted their innermost fears and triumphed over them.
Cultivating human bonds
Yet, as we celebrate the value of solitude, let us not forget the irreplaceable significance of human connections. Life’s tapestry is woven with the threads of relationships, and it is in the warmth of these connections that we find solace, joy, and shared experiences. The new year beckons us to not only acknowledge but also actively cultivate and honour the special bonds that grace our lives.
In our pursuit of individual excellence, we must recognise the power of collective energy. The shared laughter, the comforting presence during challenging times, and the simple joys of camaraderie contribute to the fabric of our existence. These bonds are the pillars that support us when the solitary path becomes arduous and the pursuit of excellence seems lonely.
Harmonising socialising and solitude
The idea is to understand that self-improvement is not merely confined to losing a few pounds and gaining knowledge. But, to the way we interact with people, and the kindness with which we calibrate our expectations from them. It is about how often we forget and forgive and how quietly we work on our triggers in social situations.
As we navigate the duality of solitude and social bonds, the key lies in harmonising these seemingly opposing forces. The new year offers us an opportunity to strike a balance that nurtures our personal growth while cherishing the relationships that add depth and meaning to our lives.
Allocate moments for solitude, where introspection and self-improvement take centre stage. In these quiet intervals, cleanse the mind of preconceived notions and conditioning, allowing the authentic self to emerge. Simultaneously, dedicate time to cherish and foster the connections that make life beautiful. Engage in shared experiences, create memories, and revel in the tapestry of relationships that define your journey.
In essence, the new year encourages us not to view solitude and socialising as conflicting choices but as complementary facets of a fulfilling life. Embrace the solitude that refines you, pursue excellence that fulfils you, and cherish the bonds that complete you. May the coming year be a harmonious blend of self-discovery, shared laughter, and the unwavering support of those who make your journey extraordinary.
(The writer is a mental health and behavioural sciences columnist, conducts art therapy workshops and provides personality development sessions for young adults. She can be found @the_millennial_pilgrim on Instagram and Twitter)
