Ever found yourself in a relationship argument and turned to AI to make your partner understand how you really feel? You’re not alone. From writing heartfelt texts to sorting out emotional issues, AI chatbots have slowly found their way into the world of modern love—sometimes as silent helpers, and other times as full-blown mediators.
The Free Press Journal takes a closer look at how people are using technology to navigate relationships, especially when emotional bandwidth runs low. Long-distance couples, time-starved professionals, and even the romantically challenged are all discovering new ways to stay connected—with a little extra help from the bots.
AI-Coded Date Nights
Chandni Shah, 24, has been in a long-distance relationship for two years. She’s not shy about using ChatGPT to write apology notes. “AI helps me express my feelings better. It finds the words I can’t, and sometimes those extra flourishes make all the difference,” she says.
Would she mind if her boyfriend used AI to plan a romantic evening? “Not at all! In fact, I’d love it. AI can be more thoughtful than us sometimes. It comes up with the cutest date night ideas I’d never think of.”
Turns out, she’s not the only one outsourcing romance. “A friend of mine saves her husband’s number as ‘Mr. Unromantic’ on her phone. The maximum he can get himself to plan a date is to order food. For their anniversary, she told him to learn a few romantic ideas from the internet,” says Hema Subramanian, psychotherapist, regression therapist, and corporate trainer.
While some might scoff at the idea, Hema says it really depends on your partner’s flavor of romance. “Some people like ice cream flavours to be more natural. Yet some others don’t care as long as it is ice cream. Likewise, your partner’s preference for automated date plans would have to be considered. If your partner says, ‘At least you tried,’ you’ve probably hit the jackpot. But if they prefer a natural flavour, you may have to put in more effort than expected.”
Bring on the Emotions
The idea of AI handling parts of our emotional lives may sound futuristic, but it’s already here. Nikeeta Karia, a clinical psychologist, says she’s seen a rise in couples relying on tech to do more than just coordinate calendars.
“Some are using AI to write apology messages, calm tensions during conflict, or even relying on reminders to express affection. It’s especially helpful for partners who struggle to communicate or are trying to be more consistent. It can be a helpful scaffold,” she explains.
Nitin Sharma, another Gen Z, thinks AI helps in keeping relationships alive and is “cute and smart.” “In today’s generation, where everyone is too busy within themselves, putting effort into thinking about your partner’s preferences with the help of AI to make things right is fair enough,” he reveals.
But there’s a fine line. “In therapy, I often encourage couples to see technology as a tool, not a replacement. Use it to support your relationship, not to run it,” Nikeeta adds. Because in the end, connection isn’t just about what gets done—it’s about who chooses to show up, and how.
The Mediator
For Arfat Shringoankar, a corporate employee, AI is more than just a writing assistant—it’s a sounding board. He says, “Sometimes I feel like it understands me better than most people. When I use AI chatbot texts to explain things to my girlfriend, she understands my side better. It helps me say things clearly, without getting defensive or emotional.”
Chandni, on the other hand, has a different wish. “I wish I had an AI that would remind me of key points during the fight. It’s always after the argument that I remember all the valid things I should’ve said,” she laughs.
Fights are inevitable in any relationship. But sometimes, a bit of outside perspective—even from a bot—can help cool tempers. Hema recalls how one of her friends turned to AI to get perspective on her strained relationship. “It gave her the right amount of empathy, reality check, general perspective, and some psychobabble. It helped her calm down. The next time she spoke to her boyfriend, she was fairly clear in what she wanted to say.”
AI’s role here is as an objective, neutral observer who can offer great insights. Can it resolve conflicts? That depends on what you and your partner are conflicted about. AI may offer solutions to a problem, but you have to understand how to use it when bringing AI in as a mediator.
New Therapist
Rohan Verma, 26, says he turns to AI when he feels overwhelmed. “It feels like you have someone to talk to when you’re angry, confused, or just alone.”
Nikeeta reveals that in the past year, more clients have told her they’ve used AI to navigate tough conversations—like understanding attachment styles and figuring out how to write a difficult text. “I’ve had people say things like, ‘We used ChatGPT to help draft a message to each other that felt less reactive,’ or ‘We asked an AI how to word things so we wouldn’t escalate,’” she says.
But she also warns of potential pitfalls. “I’ve also seen a few cases where over-reliance becomes a concern, where one or both partners defer to AI instead of engaging directly with each other. That’s when it can become a barrier instead of a bridge. Like most tools, it really comes down to how consciously and responsibly you use it.”
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Cute, Lazy, or Smart?
So, is using AI a lazy shortcut, or just a clever tool? The answer probably depends on who you ask—and how it’s used.
Some couples see it as a creative way to keep love alive. Others, a lifeline during busy weeks or messy misunderstandings. Either way, technology is reshaping the way we connect, argue, apologize, and even plan romantic evenings.
As with anything in love, balance is everything. AI might not bring flowers to your doorstep, but it might just help you remember your anniversary, write a good note, or stop a fight before it begins.
