When someone blames you, what do you usually do? You blame them back or you set up some resistance in yourself. How do you feel when someone blames you? Hurt, unhappy, sad, heavy? This is all because you are resisting! What you resist, persists. You get hurt because you resist the blame. Know that when someone blames you, they take away some negative karma from you. If you understand this, you will only feel happy about it. If you resist when someone blames you, you are not allowing them to take away the negative karma. Even if you don’t react outwardly, you may still be resisting inside. Actually it’s fine to resist outside, but inside don’t resist. You will feel immediately lighter. You can feel happy: Oh, good, somebody is blaming me and taking some of my negative karma. The ignorant person says, “Don’t blame me” because it hurts him. An enlightened person also says, “Don’t blame me.” Do you know why? Because it might hurt you. You can tell someone not to blame you out of anger or out of compassion.
Braunlage, Germany
August 10, 1995
ANGER – NEGATIVITY
Normally, you offer your anger freely and your smile rarely. In ignorance, anger is cheap and a smile is costly. In knowledge, a smile is free like the sun, air and water, and anger is extremely expensive, like a diamond. Make your smile cheaper and your anger expensive.
Bangalore Ashram, India
September 25, 1996
Negativity cannot remain without a support. Positivity and happiness can exist without any reason.
The mind goes on trying to find a support for its negativity. It looks for a hook on which to hang its negativity – if not this person, then that thing or that person. This perpetuates maya. The creeping vine of negativity needs support in order to grow. But negativity or aversion for even one person can guarantee a one-way ticket to hell – you need nothing else. All negativity is an indicator for you to move to your centre and to broaden your vision to cosmic intelligence. Instead of focusing your attention on a support for your negativity, look at the seed of the negativity. With meditation, silence and Kriya, the source of negativity is nipped at the root.
Bangalore Ashram, India
September 9, 1999
