There are moments in our life when something does not go according to our expectations. A relationship changes, a plan fails, someone disappoints us or an opportunity disappears. We then spend days replaying that particular event in our minds, wishing we could change what has already happened. But there is another possibility, which not many know of. We can learn to put a full stop. That full stop is not an act of forgetting. It is an act of choosing. Choosing to stop letting the past write the script for today. Choosing to give ourselves permission to move forward, not because the wound has disappeared, but because we have decided it will not define us. Remember, detachment is not indifference. It is the ability to remain loving without becoming imprisoned by attachment.
True harmony also does not mean that everyone must think alike. We are different in our personalities, backgrounds, experiences and perspectives. Balance allows us to appreciate those differences without turning every difference into a conflict. And this is perhaps the most mature understanding of balance, not the balance of sameness, but the balance of acceptance. Accepting that people will disappoint us sometimes. Accepting that plans will fail. Accepting that life will not always cooperate. And choosing, in spite of all of that, to remain open, warm and at peace within.
Imagine a family where everyone has the freedom to be themselves, yet everyone remembers to respect one another. Imagine friendships where there is affection without possessiveness. Imagine a workplace where ambition exists alongside cooperation. That is balance. Not sameness, but harmony amidst difference. And it begins not out there in the world, but in here, within each of us. The moment we find that quiet steadiness inside, that place that does not shake with every storm, we stop needing the world to be a certain way in order to feel at peace. We carry our peace with us. And that, perhaps, is the greatest freedom any human being can ever know. So, right from this moment, live fully, love openly, let go gracefully and above all, come back to yourself. Not to the version the world shaped, not the one built from other people's expectations , but the original, uncluttered, quietly powerful version that was always there. That one never left. It was simply waiting for you to return.
There are moments in our life when something does not go according to our expectations. A relationship changes, a plan fails, someone disappoints us or an opportunity disappears. We then spend days replaying that particular event in our minds, wishing we could change what has already happened. But there is another possibility, which not many know of. We can learn to put a full stop. That full stop is not an act of forgetting. It is an act of choosing. Choosing to stop letting the past write the script for today. Choosing to give ourselves permission to move forward, not because the wound has disappeared, but because we have decided it will not define us. Remember, detachment is not indifference. It is the ability to remain loving without becoming imprisoned by attachment.
True harmony also does not mean that everyone must think alike. We are different in our personalities, backgrounds, experiences and perspectives. Balance allows us to appreciate those differences without turning every difference into a conflict. And this is perhaps the most mature understanding of balance, not the balance of sameness, but the balance of acceptance. Accepting that people will disappoint us sometimes. Accepting that plans will fail. Accepting that life will not always cooperate. And choosing, in spite of all of that, to remain open, warm and at peace within.
Imagine a family where everyone has the freedom to be themselves, yet everyone remembers to respect one another. Imagine friendships where there is affection without possessiveness. Imagine a workplace where ambition exists alongside cooperation. That is balance. Not sameness, but harmony amidst difference. And it begins not out there in the world, but in here, within each of us. The moment we find that quiet steadiness inside, that place that does not shake with every storm, we stop needing the world to be a certain way in order to feel at peace. We carry our peace with us. And that, perhaps, is the greatest freedom any human being can ever know. So, right from this moment, live fully, love openly, let go gracefully and above all, come back to yourself. Not to the version the world shaped, not the one built from other people's expectations , but the original, uncluttered, quietly powerful version that was always there. That one never left. It was simply waiting for you to return.
There are moments in our life when something does not go according to our expectations. A relationship changes, a plan fails, someone disappoints us or an opportunity disappears. We then spend days replaying that particular event in our minds, wishing we could change what has already happened. But there is another possibility, which not many know of. We can learn to put a full stop. That full stop is not an act of forgetting. It is an act of choosing. Choosing to stop letting the past write the script for today. Choosing to give ourselves permission to move forward, not because the wound has disappeared, but because we have decided it will not define us. Remember, detachment is not indifference. It is the ability to remain loving without becoming imprisoned by attachment.
True harmony also does not mean that everyone must think alike. We are different in our personalities, backgrounds, experiences and perspectives. Balance allows us to appreciate those differences without turning every difference into a conflict. And this is perhaps the most mature understanding of balance, not the balance of sameness, but the balance of acceptance. Accepting that people will disappoint us sometimes. Accepting that plans will fail. Accepting that life will not always cooperate. And choosing, in spite of all of that, to remain open, warm and at peace within.
Imagine a family where everyone has the freedom to be themselves, yet everyone remembers to respect one another. Imagine friendships where there is affection without possessiveness. Imagine a workplace where ambition exists alongside cooperation. That is balance. Not sameness, but harmony amidst difference. And it begins not out there in the world, but in here, within each of us. The moment we find that quiet steadiness inside, that place that does not shake with every storm, we stop needing the world to be a certain way in order to feel at peace. We carry our peace with us. And that, perhaps, is the greatest freedom any human being can ever know. So, right from this moment, live fully, love openly, let go gracefully and above all, come back to yourself. Not to the version the world shaped, not the one built from other people's expectations , but the original, uncluttered, quietly powerful version that was always there. That one never left. It was simply waiting for you to return.
(The writer is a spiritual educator and popular columnist for publications across India, USA, UK, South Africa, Australia, Canada and Mauritius. To date 10,000+ Published Columns have been written by him. You can reach out to him at nikunjji@gmail.com or visit www.brahmakumaris.com)
