Aren’t we all living in some sort of self-imposed limitations? We set up boundaries and then fear to cross over it. ‘I won’t be able to do this’, ‘I am not good looking’, ‘I don’t have the confidence’ are just a few of the phrases which almost are playing over and over again in our minds; sometimes without even realising it. But till we set ourselves free from our own clutches and start going with the flow we will not be able to evolve and grow, writes APARNA KAPOOR
Why set up boundaries?
What happens to a kite which decides not to hold on to the string anymore? It flies, floats, travels miles and explores new landscapes. It may go to heights which probably is not possible for it to conquer, if it holds on to the safety, security and assurance of the string. The string gives the kite all the strength to sustain longer in the winds but takes away its freedom to be adventurous in the short journey of its existence.
The kite which is tied to the string, lives the life for the string, taking it to a height and making the end of the string peep down below making the world look tiny, which otherwise is a dream for the timid string. The ability to fly is with the kite and not the string. A fact the kite and the string, both have to realise. It’s the choice the kite has to make, whether to hold on to the string or let itself free.
The kite is you and me; the strings are the limitations we set up for ourselves. We all are born with immense potential, a free mind, free soul; to float, fly and explore but we choose to restrict ourselves, by putting hurdles in front of us. Our likes and dislikes, our beliefs, our notions, our mental blocks, our acceptances and our choices are nothing, but hurdles put by us in practically every sphere of our existence. In short, we prefer to tie ourselves up instead of letting loose to go with the flow and then crib and complain later for not having achieved we ‘think’ we could have had.
If only we could learn to cut our strings. We perhaps may exceed our own boundaries, and travel miles ahead of our own paraphernalia. A kite which flies with the string may rise higher than the one which floats freely but it would be deprived of the new skies which lay ahead — untouched, unexplored, endless.
Hold ‘no strings attached’
Resistance in any form is making the thing you resist, persist. The more you resist, the longer it shall persist. Be it sorrow, despair, fear. Or in other words it also means monotony, stagnancy, and stunted growth.
I read a very nice quote by Steven Pressfield, the famous American author and historian, which said, “Most of us have two lives. The life we live and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands resistance” It is this resistance I am talking about. And this resistance you must resist.
It pays to be like water. It flows. From being a drop to becoming rain, river, ocean. Water, when flows does not know that it is on a journey to become an ocean. It simply goes by its instinctive character. We too do not know what this journey called life is all about, what lays ahead in future, what is the purpose of our existence. Chances are, that we are that drop which has the required potential to become an ocean, and on our way watering the dried up lands and quenching thirsts of many fellow beings.
Saying this, it means that we need to understand our own worth and understand that each drop has the potential to become an ocean. Each one of us has an individual world within, breathing silently. It is up to us whether we want to make that world within us start living its own life. We all are capable of creating the world of our dreams, but we need to dream in the first place! The dreams have no restrictions. They are free. They are our own imaginations where we have set no barriers. To become the ocean, the precondition for the drop is to flow endlessly, effortlessly. To actually live your dreams, first start dreaming is our precondition to live the life we all so much desire.
Do not worry about the results
The kite which glides, floats, flies and travels miles may end up on the branches of a tree but so can be the fate of the one which chooses to fly tied up with the string too. So what is the right thing to do? The choice is ours to decide. Either we set ourselves within boundaries and go about living a mundane life with no challenges or should we be pushing our limits which even we are unaware of. The results in both the cases are anyway not in our hands. So why then should we limit our potential in an invisible cage?
There are no boundaries set up for us by nature, it’s a self imposed prison we give ourselves. So, if we want to grow, evolve and most importantly, learn, then we must cut the strings and go with flow of the winds, wherever it takes us. One has to realise that we tie ourselves with the strings of our limitations; we only ‘feel’ that we are flying but actually we are not. The kite who lets itself free of the string is the one who actually starts flying.
It’s a matter of choice, a matter of perception. If you think that you live only once, then the deceptive safety of the ‘strings’ will keep you feeling assured but if you think you die only once then all you have to do is — LET LOOSE.