Confucius, an eminent Chinese philosopher, most pertinently remarks that if you hate a person, you are then defeated by him. Certainly love in this modern age is no more constant in its nature. It is appalling to witness the gruesome spectacle of hatred prevalent all around the world .
Your own offspring only loves you back as long as you dance to their tunes and fulfill all their just or unjust demands. If the lovers have to part ways due to any reason, their passionate love at times gives way to an intense hatred. They become vengeful and go all out to inflict pains on each other. Here I am painfully reminded of the ghastly episodes of acid attacks by the spurned lovers which besmirch the entire concept of true love. Sometime even the most beautiful relationships fail to hold on and sustain .
The question is, if we love someone so intensely, how can we hate the same person at a point of time in life? Shakespeare rightly says that love is not love that alters when it alteration finds. Even if we have to confront certain people who are at loggerheads with us and conspire against us to pull us down, we should not lose the equanimity of our mind.
Once the Buddha was asked by one of his disciples about the way to tackle such wicked people . Buddha smilingly responded that we should never harbour hatred or ill-will against those who are even on the prowl to hurt us . The ideal way to deal with such people is by sheer indifference. It is thus exhorted by the enlightened sage that when our adversaries attempt to malign us, we should only observe and ignore.
One day they will be exhausted and cease their conspiracies on their own. Therefore, turning our back to our foe is not an act of timidity. In fact, it is a very wise step, only a mature man can take. At no cost should the negative emotion of hatred be allowed to flourish and thrive. This emotion has a boomerang impact.
It just bounces back and in return leaves us deeply wounded inside. But this realisation of oneness with the whole universe and cosmopolitan love can only take place in an enlightened mind. Only an enlightened man can truly understand the idea of Swami Vivekananda about love and hatred who says, “I wonder why people hate when life is too short to love.” Thus, in no way, must we waste our energies in hating anyone; rather we should sincerely strive to sow seeds of love, compassion and empathy in the garden of our heart.