WHAT is discovered in the spiritual experience that allows us to rest, that makes it possible to stop struggling against life, is the knowledge that every aspect of our personal experience is an impersonal affair. Indeed, the individual who has transcended the need to see themselves as being unique or special is instantly released from the tyranny of separation. It is this necessity to see ourselves as being unique or special that always takes us away from the truth of our ultimate nature and in that, away from everyone else. As long as we allow ourselves to be captivated by the emotional and psychological need to see ourselves as standing outside of and away from the whole, it will be impossible to truly come together with another. The more we are able to perceive the simple truth of the ultimately impersonal nature of all personal experience, the less we will feel compelled to see ourselves as being separate.
Dare to consider this question for yourself: is there anything personal about any aspect of my personal experience?
Simply through the discovery of the impersonality of every aspect of your personal experience, you can find your own Liberation. That is all it takes. But to succeed, this demands a rare degree of interest and determination. This is not something to be done only during a period of meditation or reflection. It is not something to be done only at a particular time that one sets aside to pay attention. This is meant to be done always—when you are on the bus or when you are at work, when you experience anger or lust, when you are overwhelmed by sublime feeling, when you are profoundly happy. Whatever you could possibly think or feel, remember to ask yourself: is there anything personal about any aspect of my personal experience?
– ANDREW COHEN