Indore : “Assertiveness is not only our moral, legal, professional and social right but also our birth right. Without being assertive in life a new born child can’t survive. We should enhance it further,” said Dr Vikrant Singh Tomar, National Trainer and Management Consultant, while addressing the workshop on Wednesday.
Dr Tomar was addressing Training@Doorsteps series, a one-day workshop organised by the Indore Management Association at Cummins Turbo Technologies India Ltd, Pithampur. The module for the workshop was: “Assertiveness skills: Communicating with Authority & Impact.
He said Malala got the Noble prize because she asserted at the right time and Bhishma Pitamaha invited the Mahabharata because he didn’t assert at the right time. In the absence of assertiveness, we experience anxiety, fear, depression, frustration, anger that lead to poor personal, professional and social performances.
Assertive skills develop our ability to act positively and achieve our goals in harmony with our self-esteem, without hurting and offending others. It is a means of gaining confidence and helps cultivate honest, powerful and effective communication. He said: Words are soldiers and speeches battalions. We try to please everybody and end up displeasing ourselves. All effective speakers may not be leaders but all leaders are effective speakers. Respond instead of reacting. Ramayana appears to be an epic of misery because everybody reacted, for instance Laxmana had cut Suparkhana’s nose when she proposed him. That led to the war. He could have dealt it better. Misery is optional. We are unhappy because we choose to be unhappy.
