Washington : A new study has revealed that people with low self esteem does not want others to boost their spirits rather they wish them to see as they are, reports ANI.
Professor Denise Marigold, from Renison University College at Waterloo said that people with low self-esteem want their loved ones to see them as they see themselves and they are often resistant to their friends’ reminders of how positively they see them, moreover, they also reject what they call positive reframing expressions of optimism and encouragement for bettering their situation.
She further suggested that if people attempt to point out the silver lining is met with a sullen reminder of the prevailing dark cloud then they might do best to just acknowledge the dark cloud and sympathize.
The confidence lacking individuals usually prefer negative validation, which conveys that the feelings, actions or responses of the recipient are normal, reasonable, and appropriate to the situation.
The researchers have found no evidence that positive reframing helps participants with low self-esteem. And in fact, the people providing support to friends with low self-esteem often felt worse about themselves when they attempted to cheer up their friend. The study is published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.