New Delhi : “Everyone keeps piling work on me.” “The traffic light has turned green, why isn’t the car in front of me moving?” If your blood boils with anger at such minor happenings of everyday life, try leaving behind your frustrations for a healthy you in the coming year, say experts.
Anger is typically a reaction to any factor, often a secondary emotion than can arise as a reaction to other emotions such as insecurity, jealousy and fear, says Dr. Samir Parikh, director, mental health and behavioural sciences, Fortis Healthcare Limited.
“It is a natural response by our body, which triggers the ‘fight or flight’ response in perception of potential threat, attack, injustice or disappointment,” Parikh told IANS.
Though anger is an emotion which is experienced by every person at some point of time, it seems like more and more people, including children, are increasingly losing their cool easily. The fast-paced life is to be blamed for the same, says Dr. Sanju Ghambir, senior consultant psychotherapy and counselling, Primus Super Specialty Hospital.
“We are getting a lot of patients now. They have a lot of anger in them because they don’t have patience. We are living in a time where everything is instant. All we have to do is go online. When we don’t get results fast, that’s when people start getting angry.
“Children as young as three show anger. Be it sibling rivalry or not getting toy of their choice, anything can be the reason. Sometimes, even watching cartoons leads to anger because there is a lot of violence in that,” Ghambir added.
Earlier, there were more cases of men losing temper, but now with the demand for equality, women are no longer hiding their emotions, she pointed out. “Now even women are expressing anger. More women are becoming aware of their own role. With that in mind, women also feel why they should keep quiet. So that role of keeping quiet to control the situation is going out now because a woman has her own ego to satisfy,” she said.
It might seem like people become calmer as they grow older. But Ghambir says age has nothing to do with it. “A person who is able to adjust, learns to control himself better, whereas a person who is always looking at the things that he lacks, that person will always be dissatisfied and angry. If they have stress related to money and relationship, then the anger might just go up,” she said.
