Bhopal: In wake of suicides by seven students after declaration of Class 10 and Class 12 results of MPBSE (MP Board) on Monday, psychiatrists, counsellors and artistes in the city advised the parents to make their children feel special and remain very sensitive towards them. Free Press also spoke to some depressed students who could not clear their exams and were encountering all negative thoughts. The students claimed that their family and friends helped them to come out of their deep pessimistic feeling. Excerpts:
Shrasti Shrawan, X std student
In the results declared on Monday, I got supplementary in four subjects. It was my second attempt. In first attempt I couldn’t take exam because of my mother’s bad health. She was admitted to hospital. I was very depressed seeing my exam performance. I was so disheartened that I told my elder sister to give me some injection or sleeping pills. But she made me understand that value of life and people around us.
“Your life is more important than exam. If you alive, you can take exam again,’ my sister counselled. My father also made me understand and took me to a restaurant to change my mood. Now, I am feeling good and decided to take exam one again. My parents and my family realised me that my life is important for them not exam. I am happy now.
Sindhu Dholpure, counsellor, dancer and actor
My performance in MA (psychology) was not good. I got only 47 %. I became depressed thinking that I would not be able to sit in any competitive exams with such low marks. At that time, my father motivated me a lot saying not to worry as it has nothing to do with marks. Believe in you practical knowledge.
I worked on my skills and proved this. Now, I have worked as counsellor in various well-known institutions in the city including MPBSE, MP Police, Central Jail and Women and children Development. Besides, I also kept other options in my life like dance and acting. And now I am actor and dancer both. I am perusing MA in Kathak. I think, your hard work and dedication bring success not percentage.
Two years back, I took class 10 exams but failed. I was so tensed to think how I will face my parents and society. What they will say? Seeing me depressed, my father took me to a counsellor, who motivated me a lot. Thereafter I decided to take exam once again.
After one year gap I sat in exam and scored good marks. I still remember my counsellor sentence “Life is never ending.” Now, I am doing bachelor in fashion designing from NIFT. I got immense support of my parents specially my father Dilip Shrawan who works in Bhopal Municipal Corporation. In fact he suggested me to do course in fashion designing. I think, if parents support their children like my parents did, for sure the rate of suicide will stop automatically.
Parents should encourage their children and make them realise that they are very special and valuable. In fact they should say that their children are more important not marks. They should give moral support saying not to worry if result is not good or satisfactory and motivate them to try better next time. Parents should treat depressed children with a lot of sensitivity and positive attitude. And the best solution to avoid such situation is that parent should monitor their children through out the year not before or after exams.