Sorrow of being sidelined
I have joined a media company for a tenure of one year. Post this one year, I am going abroad to work for a company there. Everyone in my office is aware of this fact and this is why I get treated differently. My thoughts, ideas and suggestions do not get taken seriously. I am sidelined on purpose to prove to other people that they value only long term employees. I want to make the most of the experience but I am unable to. Please help.
The inability to make the most of this experience in the media company could be a huge let down since you are investing time and energy. The notion that the company only values long term employee if true then it can be addressed with the seniors who would are responsible for delegating the tasks at work. Your genuine efforts and inputs do need some reciprocation in order to help you feel more motivated. Having an honest discussion with your seniors who have been instrumental in hiring you could help find a solution to this issue as they would be in a better position to delegate work.
The weepy employee
I am a very emotionally reactive person. At work, I recently had an argument with a colleague which made me cry in front of everyone uncontrollably. I wish I would have handled the situation in a better way. There have been other such incidents too which are not a big deal but have got a big reaction out of me like anger or crying. How do I train myself to be less reactive and handle situations in a better way?
Many a times, our emotional reactions to trivial things could be a result of certain unresolved issues that trickle over in our day to day minor inconveniences. In order to train yourself to be less reactive it is essential to be aware what triggers off the emotional reaction in the first place. Emotions aren’t necessarily a negative aspect of our lives. Expressing negative emotions in a healthy manner is possible and can be practiced with the help of a therapist. Professional assistance can help you understand a lot about your emotions and how to channelize the same without having to bear the brunt of it.
Blame it on boss
I have been working in a start up for the last six months. This is my first job and I joined this company because I thought I would learn a lot. However, my boss does not teach me anything and when I ask him he says that this is not how it works and to figure it out by myself. I have not been able to learn a lot of work because of this and at the end of the day I feel like I have not done anything productive. This makes me very dissatisfied, under-confident and I doubt my ability.
A work environment appears to be productive when it gives you enough to learn and apply as well. Since you are new at the job the expectation of your boss seems difficult to achieve owing to lack of experience as it is also your first job. Since learning is hindered, try approaching your fellow senior colleagues who can help you in finding a better grounding at work and in case that becomes difficult as well and if your boss has completely stone-walled this conversation, looking for avenues that can provide you with learning environment can also help. Making sure that you are indeed taking necessary measures to help yourself might help in your confidence as well.
Just jealousy
My friend and I graduated and got jobs recently. My job pays less than my friend’s, even though I work for more hours. Her job is more convenient as she does not have to travel much. Due to these differences I have a sense of jealousy and self-doubt. I feel like I am not that talented which is why my pay is less. This affects my productivity at work too. How can I help myself?
You could be looking at selective information with respect to your job scenario in comparison to your friend. The sense of jealousy and self doubt is stemming from a much deeper place than merely the current trigger. It is important to understand that the difference in pay may have little to do with your talent and more to do with the company policies. If you feel that your professional fee has to be X amount as per the efforts you put in, as well as your talents, then negotiating with your superiors rather than externally comparing yourself with the ideal.
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