How does one take an important decision, especially when the choices are multiple or at times difficult? Gayatri Ramnathan tells us how she decides what her bottom-line is in making any choice.
Individuals have bottom lines too. In my case, invariably, it is happiness. It took me a long time to realize it is important to be happy – not just do what I set out to do, but do it happily. Joyously, blissfully.
I clearly remember the moment this realization came about. At the conclusion of a meditation retreat, someone asked me what I wanted in life. I said happiness. The lady who asked me the question cocked an eyebrow and said, “Why not joy, bliss?” Why not indeed! So that has been my bottom line ever since.
It somehow changes the whole chemistry of what I do. And it is always be about me or my happiness – many a time, it is happiness and joy for the others in my circle – spouse, children, parents, colleagues, co-travelers. Sometimes, even anonymous folks. They are large part of happiness quotient.
When a large decision looms ahead of me, I can sit back and look at what would be the repercussions of decision A versus decision B. Then it comes down to generating maximum happiness and joy all around.
However, on a daily basis, it can be quite a pain to remember to remain happy and spread cheer. Especially when I am faced with a crisis. Somebody who has not delivered on a deadline, something that upsets my equilibrium, situations I do not have any control over. In those moments, it is tough to remember the bottom line.
I have discovered that the thing to do is to take a deep breath and let it all flow since I anyway do not have any control over the situation. To know when to let go. That is the real deal about happiness!