This Valentine’s Day, love start a love affair with yourself, writes Ankita Das
Hey you! Before you read this piece can you please take a deep breath, look into the mirror and just say to yourself, “I love you.” It may sound a little weird or like being a narcissist, but just do it. It’s not about being self-obsessed but about looking within to find the love you have in yourself. There is no other person in the world like you. You deserve to be loved by yourself the most first and not just by the people around you. Love is a beautiful power, that power which makes or breaks you but in the move of loving someone, we many a times loose ourselves.
‘This Valentine’s Day make yourself a priority and practice self-love. Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. We know we need self-love, yet we have difficulty giving ourselves permission to experience it. For those of us who have experienced the power of self-love, we can agree that the effects can often feel quite magical.’
Here is a love prescription for you which if taken as a daily dose will assure you happiness and well-being.
Who am I?
What is the purpose of my life? What are my strengths and shortcomings? What feeds my soul and mind? What makes me happy and what keeps me going?
Do you know yourself enough that you can answer all of this in one go? Why don’t you sit for a coffee with yourself and do a rapid-fire round to find out everything in you and all that drives you. It may lead you live the life you dream of.
You should know that you’re beautiful and special. You don’t have to be anybody else, rather be you. Your size, shape or colour doesn’t define your beauty. It is that soul inside you which reflects the beauty in you. Feed your soul with positive thoughts and love yourself enough to feel great about the original you. Celebrate the freedom of being you and honour who you truly are.
Embrace being flawsome
Take ownership of who you are. You need your acceptance before others. Be yours completely first by owning both your good and bad. It’s okay to have flaws and not be right all the time. You don’t have to have everything in your life. There will be things out of place and something missing. Instead of focusing on what you lack, focus on what you rock on. Acceptance is the key. When in love with someone, present yourself exactly the way you are. When you accept yourself completely, the need of others accepting you ends and hence you create your own sunshine.
End all toxic relationships
Surround yourself with people who lift you, make you believe in your magic and give you the right vibe. You don’t have the time to invest in toxic relationships and drain your mental peace. Find your happy people and keep them intact. The ones who keep reminding you about all the good things in life and shoulder you in your hard times but before all of this, be that one. You attract people with your vibe. Give that vibe and be appreciative.
Your health is in your hands which includes physical, mental and emotional. Go for a date with yourself once a while. Find your own happy and peace. Where’s that one place you feel totally at ease, happy, and high on life? Go to that corner in your home or anywhere when you are going through any negativity, or imagine yourself being there. Think about how it feels, what it smells like, what it looks like. Pay attention to the little things you love to do and make time to do it. Self-esteem and self-love often go hand in hand, and participating in a hobby you’re good at will not only boost your endorphins, but will bring out the best version of you. If you love to cook, then cook! If you love to run, then grab those sneakers, head outside and run for your life. Your mental health depends on what you think and how you feel.
Take charge of your life. It is you who gives others the permission to make you sad, angry or depressed. Never let anyone affect you to a point where you lose your originality and become numb. Life is beautiful. One person, one accident or one loss cannot define the momentum of your life.
Soliloquy is miraculous. Give yourself a break by expressing yourself to you. Talk to yourself once in a day to ask yourself how your day was. You should be aware of your feelings and mood swings. When you know the reasons behind it, you can always feed it right. Write it out, paint, sing, dance, speak in front of the mirror and just utter yourself. It feels great to let it all out and restart with new energy and mindset.
You cannot give love to others if you don’t have that love within. Loving yourself is magical—it’s a divine relationship that will help you radically improve every single aspect of your life.
“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.” — Buddha