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“Live-in relationships are less messy!” ,says Arjun Kpaoor


Arjun Kapoor tells Shubarna Mukerji Shu that when in love, it is advisable to go with your gut feeling, whether a live-in relationship or marriage.

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You are actually re-introducing classics to the youth, becoming the face of Zee Classic…
Youth today is open to all kinds of cinema, and I am not just saying that for the heck of it, look at the films we are making these days. However, what we are today stems from where we have been. We have some real gems from the years gone by and it is rather important that the youth today get a feel of it themselves. There is with time.

Talking about legacy, you yourself are a part of the grand picture, but how much have things changed over the years?
Change is something that’s inevitable but I do strongly believe that we are at a space in the industry where some really good work is happening. Look around, there is no parallel cinema. Cinema today is a gamut of stories which can be anything from a FINDING FANNY to a TEVAR, it can be a 2 STATES or KI & KA.  That’s cinema today, you have so much to offer.

Just naming the films you have been a part of, kind of points out how different your oeuvre has been as compared to the more commercial heritage of your family…
I don’t think that is completely true, my father (Boney Kapoor) is the man who has made films like MR. INDIA and COMPANY with Ram Gopal Varma too, my Chachu (Anil Kapoor) has done really off beat films too like MY WIFE’S MURDER. So you see that there has really never been a Kapoor who hasn’t tried to taste it all and do it all, it is just that today things are a lot more easily acceptable. To begin with, there is no commercial/ parallel space like I said before. I don’t become an off-beat actor if I do a film which does not have a very commercial story-line. Everything has an audience; everything has to translate into commerce.

Today we can have a film like KAPOOR AND SONS, wherein we address the elephant in the room which hasn’t been spoken about ever. It is something that makes families uncomfortable but it is very much a part of the society we thrive in. Maybe someday somewhere, someone will find acceptance or strength in coming out and speaking about it, not because of that one particular film, but because we are comfortable making these films, speaking about these stories…

Yet, parallel cinema isn’t the only thing that is blurring its borders. There is a lot out there which is changing society’s image on celluloid.
I will cut you short there; I really think that films are a mirror to society, the stories we write come from the society we live in. They are not spun out of some highly imaginative space. We speak the language of society, tell stories from society; if there is a give and take it is more taking from society. If people get inspired that’s just 10 per cent of the whole thing.

True about mirroring society but while one section of society applauds these attempts there are some who will be condemning it, each part of the same society.
Very early in life I realised that everything cannot go the way you envisioned it, the way you expect it. While you will think that the audience will applaud these attempts, there might be some who might not like it, so what can you do about it? Nothing! You just go on doing whatever it is that you think is right.

Don’t you agree that the film space, perhaps in a bid to reflect society, is getting rather coarse in representing relationships?
How? If you talk about marriages and relationships shown in cinema looking coarse, it is like saying the sanctity of it is getting lost – which is not at all the case. If anything, we are trying to get a closer look into relationships around us, not paint a sordid picture. I can speak for only films which I have been a part of. Look at a KI &KA, it is something that I believe needed to be said. It is important that people realise the role of a woman in a marriage, in a house, in society.

I thought it tried to help rather than cause confusion. Of course, I was asked if I could be that guy I played in the film and honestly I didn’t think I could. But there are facets from him that I endorse in relationships.

There is really too much a woman does that goes without appreciation, it is done without a world of gratefulness from the family, it is taking for granted, which I think is rather unfair. I believe that did change a few things within too.

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Tell us more about these facets that you incorporated within you… In the world of divorces, live-in relationships and marriages, what’s your take?
…To do what you believe in. If you are in love with someone go with your gut feeling and do what you want to do, if you are someone who is comfortable in a live-in relationship then go for it, if you want to get into a marriage go for it. There should be no one and nothing dictating you to do one over the other. It is your choice, your life.

Frankly, I don’t know why so much is said against live-in relationships. I don’t know if I prefer one to another, but I do realise that the repercussions are a lot less dire when it comes to live-in relationships falling apart. When it comes to marriages, especially in India, it is not only about two people falling in love and getting married, it is about actually doing the whole rigmarole with families involved. We are talking about adapting to each other’s families. You are no longer alone working on that relationship; you have your parents involved too. Breaking up a marriage thus becomes that much uglier. When it comes to a live-in relationship, it is less messy for others. It perhaps feels the same for the couple.