Misunderstood by colleagues
I have recently started working with my dad’s company. Due to this, I get treated better than the other employees and my mistakes are more easily forgiven. I love this job and work just as hard (possibly even harder) than them. I am highly disliked by them and don’t have the social work environment I want. How do I solve this problem without quitting the job?
Ans: The seniors you work with who let go of your mistakes easily, start communicating with them and express this concern of yours. They might be doing this to maintain a good relationship with your father but when you emphasize that no learning is taking place in this manner there are higher chances people will step in to teach. Just because your father owns the company doesn’t make you incapable to voicing out your concerns. Your hard work will always speak for you and remember there are people in the environment who might prove to be difficult even without any fault of yours; however, they shouldn’t be the ones bringing down your morale.
I have been working with a company for 6 years now. Recently my wife and I had a baby. She is on maternity leave to spend time with the baby and cater to its needs. I want to be an equal part of this process so that I can develop a relationship with my new-born early. However, my company has no concept of paternal leave and when I asked for it my boss laughed and said, “the mother is at home, why are you worried?” I feel frustrated being away from my child but am afraid of angering my boss. How do I navigate my way out of this situation where I can keep my reputation with my boss and spend time with my new family?
Ans: You may need to speak to your HR department about the provisions for working from home during some days of the week and at hours as per our child’s schedule so that you can spend quality time with the baby as well. There is a policy to request for paternity leave, do consider this policy as well. Prioritising your work and family life is very important as being equally available for both these fronts is imperative.
Dealing with dishonesty
I have recently switched job and I love working here. However, I have been dishonest with my previous organisation to join this workplace as I didn’t want to lose out on this opportunity. I am constantly under the fear that if there is a background check my current organisation might ask me about the same and I am not sure what I would do then. What do you recommend?
Ans: The fear is playing on your mind now which is creating panic as well. The reason for your dishonesty needs to be assessed as to what made you lie. If the previous organisation was supposedly going to be a hindrance in your advancement then probably not discussing it would somewhere be wise. However, to get rid of this fear, divert the focus on to the current job so that the organisation also focuses on your current performance and doesn’t have to look into any background.
Woes of workaholic
I am a hardworking person which sometimes backfires for me as I end up doing excessive work. I have never been the complaining type but lately, I am realising that I do get taken for granted and I am unable to do anything about it. I love to work and people around me know about this if I say no, they don’t take it too well. What to do?
Ans: Assertiveness at work is very essential to not end up feeling like you are being mistreated or being taken for granted. Your hard work isn’t dependent on how much work you do (quantitatively), rather the quality of your work matters. If you start being assertive and say ‘no’ when needed. It might not suit well with some but those who take no offence are the ones to associate yourself with.